Concepts Calcarea Muriatica
What do others think Self-pity Sensitive to criticism Care
Insecurity Nurturing
Shyness Mother
Fears Attention
Protection
Self-awareness
Withdrawal
AnalysisThe theme of Calc-m, according to the group analysis, is the fear that others will see that they need a lot of care and attention. The first part of this theme corresponds with that of Calc: 'What will others think of me'. But in Calc-m this fear is mainly focused on care and attention. They are afraid to ask for too much attention, to appear too needy and to be criticised for that.
Another variation is that they are afraid to give either too much or too little attention, especially as a mother to her children. They are afraid to spoil,or to neglect, their children. And the fear is especially that, by doing so, they will be rejected by others.
It is a theme that can easily be passed on from mother to child. The mother is very uncertain about how to care for the child. The child does not get enough and starts to 'whine'. It wants more nurturing and attention. On the one hand the mother would like to give this, but on the other hand she is afraid to spoil the child. And 'What will the neighbours and others say?'. She gets angry with the child and sends it away: 'Don’t whine so much!'. And so the child becomes very unsure about his feelings and his need for love and nurturing.
Essencethe idea and the fear that others will think it strange that you need care and nurturing.
MindThey have a great need of attention, care, nurturing and help. But on the other side, they are afraid to ask for it. That is because of the fear that others will think it strange.
They have the delusion that you have to be able to manage without the help of others. In the past there was often a lack of attention, especially from the mother.
The attention that others ask for can also become too much. Then they will become irritated and grumpy. Their own children in particular can become too much of a burden.
Also, because they are very unsure about their own motherhood, they are afraid that others will think them a bad mother, a mother who gives her children too little attention, or who spoils her children too much. Problems are therefore often connected to the menses or to pregnancy.
They like company, are quite open and like talking a lot. They are not as open to strangers as Phos. They are the fat and happy type.
They have a fear of accidents, driving, and causing accidents.
Anxiety about others, the husband, the children.
Colour preference: 8-10D, 8C.
GeneralsLocation: left.
Physique: overweight.
Temperature: cold; gloomy in gloomy weather.
Time: < 3 pm.
Desire: sweet !!, chocolate !!.
Menses: frequent, copious, daytime; moody before menses.
painful and swollen breasts before menses.
Sleep: on right side or stomach.
Carsickness.
Headache with cold. Watery nasal discharge. left sided sinusitis.
Mumps (the case makes us suspect that Calc-m. could be an important remedy for mumps).
Rheumatic pains.
DD: Calc,
Calcium sulphuricum, Muriaticums, Phos, Sep.
DD Calc: The difference is mainly that Calc-m claims the attention of the mother much more. There is a greater need for care and attention from the mother, than in Calc. In Calc there is also more shyness, and another difference is that Calc is a bit more right sided, and Calc-m a bit more left sided.
DD Calcium phosphoricum: The dissatisfaction and the complaining behaviour are the same. Calc-m seeks more nurturing from the mother;
Calcium phosphoricum does not seek the mother so much, but rather needs new and interesting things.
Calcium phosphoricum is more restless and goes out a lot, whilst Calc-m would rather stay at home.