AnalysisMaintaining self-control to get care
Maintaining care and autonomy is difficult
Maintaining autonomy and being a mother is difficult
Mother is maintaining self-control
Mother is maintaining autonomy
Mother maintains that they have to be autonomous
Maintaining self-control in caring
"Gentlemanly" mother
Mother is a therapist
Maintaining self-control over the shadow by caring
Keeping autonomy in order not to be left alone
Keeping control as a mother
Self-pity is a form of losing self-control
Maintaining self-control to get careThey have to maintain their independence in order to be taken care of. They fear that their autonomy is needed to get care and attention. They won't show their emotions easily. They see self-pity as a form of losing self-control. They can also have the feeling that they have to keep up care of others to help them in their pursuit for independence. They can be good therapists, helping others in a mothering sort of way.
Maintaining care and autonomy is difficultThey can be in a situation where they have to do a lot of caring and at the same have to maintain their independence. For instance they can be a mother and therapist and have difficulty maintaining their autonomy. Their duties as a mother can start clashing with their work, which means freedom for them. With effort they can maintain their position. With an air of confidence they will hide their insecurities.
Mother is maintaining autonomyTheir mother is maintaining self-control at all times. She can be like a gentleman, always friendly and confident, never showing weaknesses and emotions. She can be a therapist, taking care of her clients. She can also have spiritual interest, but this too in a confident way, as if she has everything under control. Deep inside she can have a fear of losing control sometimes, but she won't show it, not even to herself.
Mother maintains that they have to be autonomous
They can have a mother who emphasizes their autonomy. Their mother tells them to be on guard so that no one will take away their freedom.
Maintaining self-control over the shadow by caring
They can take the path of self-control in a spiritual way. They feel that directing their attention to the inner world will make them free. They see care as an essential part of the spiritual path, where people have to keep up care of each other.