AnalysisWorking hard to achieve deep love
Working hard to show that love is essential
Struggling for independence and love
Husband works hard for his freedom
They work hard in order not to be dominated by their husband
Spouse works hard to achieve self-control
Realizing that independence is needed for real love
Combining love and independence is hard work
Their wife presses them to become autonomous
Their wife works constantly to control their shadow
Pressurized to love the spiritual world
Deep love can only be found in the spiritual world
Difficult to combine the pressure of achieving and laziness
Combining love and independence is hard workThey want to attain both independence and love but they have the idea that that's difficult to achieve, that it will be hard work. They struggle to realize freedom and the struggle to attain love is even harder because they prefer to be lazy. They keep putting themselves under pressure in order to feel loved.
Husband works hard for his freedomThey can have a husband or wife that works hard to achieve independence. Their husband has to work hard for it, under pressure, but he can do it. He has a real struggle for self-control. He can work so hard that it becomes a struggle for the couple to have time for each other. This can lead to problems in their marriage because they feel there's no time for love.
Their wife presses them to become autonomousIt can also be the other way around, that their husband presses them to become autonomous. He struggles on their behalf or lets them struggle for their independence. He has the idea that they need to be free in the outer world or in their inner world. In that sense he can even become like a kind of pushy therapist for them.
Deep love can only be found in the spiritual world
In later development they realize that real autonomy can only be achieved when they are autonomous in their mind. They want to sort out all the inner drives to find out what's within them and what comes from other people especially their lover or spouse. Sorting this all out is hard work. It's so much a struggle that they put themselves under pressure in order to feel they can make it in time. Their struggle is needed because they know that to feel real love they have to be free in their inner world. They can even have the idea of bringing love into the world by making everyone free.
MindHaving to fight against laziness.
Pushing through even when things are boring, > interesting work.
Having to do very much for one’s partner.
Aversion boring work, assembly line work.